Phyllis Leavitt

Conflict Quiz

Disagreement and conflict come with the territory of being in relationship with others. How we deal with conflict can determine the success or failure of a marriage, a job opportunity, our ability to parent well, and most every aspect of our relationship lives.

Take the quiz and find out what your conflict type is!

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What’s your goal when you’re in a disagreement?

To win the argument and prove my point.

To avoid direct confrontation but still express my dissatisfaction indirectly.

To keep the peace and avoid upsetting anyone.

To steer clear of any conflict and move on as quickly as possible.

To work together and find a solution that benefits everyone.

2 / 6

How do you typically view the other person in a conflict?

I see them as wrong, and it’s my job to convince them.

I think they’re overreacting, but I won’t tell them that directly.

I tend to believe their opinions are more valid than mine.

I think it’s better to avoid them or the issue altogether.

I try to understand where they’re coming from and find a middle ground.

3 / 6

When emotions run high in a conflict, how do you handle it?

I raise my voice and might even get aggressive to make my point.

I make sarcastic remarks or give cold responses instead of saying what I truly feel.

I feel overwhelmed and agree with whatever the other person wants.

I shut down and try to avoid saying anything at all.

I remain calm and look for ways to de-escalate the situation.

4 / 6

How do you feel when someone disagrees with you?

I feel the need to prove I’m right.

I get upset but don’t show it directly.

I feel nervous and second-guess myself.

I feel anxious and try to steer clear of the situation.

I accept that disagreements happen and try to listen to their perspective.

5 / 6

When an argument starts, how do you usually respond?

I argue back and try to overpower the other person.

I avoid saying what I really feel, but I show my annoyance in other ways.

I back down quickly to avoid further confrontation.

I try to walk away or change the topic to avoid conflict entirely.

I engage in the conversation calmly and look for ways to resolve it together.

6 / 6

How do you respond when someone confronts you about something you’ve done wrong?

I get defensive and argue back, trying to shift the blame.

I make passive comments or sarcastic remarks without directly addressing the issue.

I apologize immediately, even if I’m not sure what I did wrong.

I avoid the conversation entirely, shutting down or walking away.

I listen to their concerns and try to find a way to make things right.

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