Shine Within

Shine Within

Okay, so it was 7:00 at night and I am usually winding down by then. I was tired after a long day, and the lighting was awful. Okay— but even so, on this last Zoom podcast, I couldn’t help but glance over and see a pale old woman on the right side of the screen, while...
What If?

What If?

Father Gregory Boyle of Homeboy Industries once said, “We imagine a world with no prisons and then we create that world.” I love that quote. I’ve repeated it to other people and the response is almost always the same—”Wouldn’t that be nice, but it will never...
It Doesn’t Have to be This Way

It Doesn’t Have to be This Way

It took me decades to begin remembering childhood abuse. One of the first memories came in a drawing I made in a workshop of me lying on my back and a scream coming out of my mouth. It was a shocking picture, and I knew there was a real scream there, the way you just...
Beyond Expectation

Beyond Expectation

Two of my most profound experiences as a therapist were with people who I thought at the outset were the least likely to be in therapy at all. One was a man whose wife was about to leave him because she was starving for more emotional connection, and he was desperate...
Be Both A Witness and a Participant

Be Both A Witness and a Participant

This is a beautiful message I received recently as I was asking for how to be in these very intense and often scary times. Now more than ever keep your soul’s calling in the forefront of consciousness. By radiating the greatest light you are capable of, you make your...